I have an inner desire to share with you, my dear friend, what I have learnt in this life. I have learnt that words have the power to save or destroy.
There was a woman who was so intelligent and had a very good heart. She had a daughter who she really adored and loved so much. One day, she came home from a bad day at work, tired, full of emotional tension, and with a terrible headache. She wanted peace and quiet but her daughter was happy singing and jumping all over the place. The daughter was so much unaware how her mother was feeling because she was in her own world expressing joy and happiness.
She was so loud that her singing was just noise to her mamma's ears, making her head ache more and after a while, the mother lost control. Angrily she looked at her beautiful little angel and screamed "Shut up! You have an ugly voice." The truth is that the mother's tolerance for any noise was nonexistent. The daughter was hearing what her mamma said. She fell silent and from then on, she believed that her voice was ugly and could bother anyone who heard it. Everything changed in this little angel of God's life. She believed that she must repress her emotions in order to be accepted and loved.
Human suffering begin with domestication. The drama in your life is the result of what you have learnt. The image you have for yourself is alive and it lives in your mind. That image is not you but it will use everything it perceives to justify its own existence. Sad enough, you believe the knowledge is you. This program was not there when you were born, you had no concepts about good and bad, beauty or ugliness. As you grew up, you looked at other people as your mirror. What your mother tells you is not exactly what your father tells you. The television, siblings, church, and the whole society defines who you are.
What you believe you are, is a distorted image of yourself that came from other people. Can you see the beginning of all the suffering and drama in your life? I bet you now do. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves and its the same way we reject other people of who they are.